Tuesday, October 10, 2017


I still remember the day like it was yesterday. The day I learned that my first born would be a boy. I totally had that whole mothers intuition going. I knew it was a boy. Once confirmed that I indeed had a baby boy on the way I thanked God for giving me the opportunity to raise a young man. Having grown up in an all girl home I felt so excited for the new journey of motherhood.

I'm not sure how many mothers would agree but raising a boy somehow helped me to understand that boys and girls are hardly different when it comes to emotions. I learned very early on that I was not a fan of the whole "boys don't cry notion." I didn't like it and I honestly still do not like it. I firmly believe that a man, a full grown and emotionally healthy man  has no issue with expressing his true feelings. Albeit good, bad or emotionally provoking. Telling a young boy that he cannot cry in my opinion is telling him that he is not allowed to have feelings. Not true! The key is knowing when to come out of it.

Emotional balance is healthy and necessary. In my experience I've learned that a man perplexed about expressing his feelings is a emotionally weak man. As boys and girls grow into young men and women life will teach them when to cry and when to be strong. I call this balance and a balanced individual is a happy individual. While raising my boy and my girls I encourage them to be honest about their feelings and to most importantly be honest with themselves. What I've learned is both my son and oldest daughter are growing into who they are but at the end of the day we are all emotional beings and emotional intelligence is a crucial subject that we often do not speak on but we should. I can see a strong balanced young man brewing and I am truly enjoy the dialogue that we have. At the end of the day, whether male or female there will come a time where we have to suck it up. Gone are the days of teaching boys that they have to strong every single minute of the day yet telling girls they are entitled to be emotional every single minute of the day. This kid is a tough and guy, I mean he's a footballer but at the end of the day we are only as tough as our minds allow us to be. Choose you.

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